Back when I was in my corporate job we were encouraged to take a ‘Defensive Driving’ course that involved performing a variety of manoeuvres on a race track. eeekk!
In one of the exercises we were instructed to speed up and then slam on the brakes and avoid hitting a particular safety cone. Despite our best efforts, almost every one of us hit the cone. Oops!
We tried it again a second time but rather than focusing on the cone, we were instructed to look for a safe place to steer the car. Same distance, same speed, same brakes – just a different intention and focus.
And it worked! Like magic! We were stunned. The instructor explained that if something or someone jumps out in front of you, the worst thing you can do is look straight at it when you’re trying to avoid it. You need to focus on where you want to go instead of where you don’t want to go.
This is something I’ve been thinking about a lot recently as I read May Cause Miracles and Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway. When you focus on your fears, you’ll quite often smash into them. And if you’re not focusing on where you really want to go, how can you expect to get there?
There’s no better time to plan a magical new year than right now. As you reflect on your experiences over the past year, what do you want to do, see, hear, taste and experience next year? And above all, how do you want to feel?
In other words, how do you set new year goals with soul? Goals that will light you up and inspire you?
In Danielle LaPorte’s book, The Desire Map, she flips traditional goal setting on its head. Danielle believes it’s not actually the goal we want to achieve but a feeling. She explains it well in this interview with Marie Forleo:
(Or click HERE to watch this video in YouTube).
Don’t you just love this? So if our true desires are just to feel a certain way, doesn’t this kind of soul-goal setting make sense?
So how do you put this baby into motion?
Get clear on your core desired feelings for 2014. Take some time to really brainstorm. Doodle. Daydream. Imagine just how rich your life would be if you felt that way.
What words and emotions come up for you? Do you want to feel confident, playful, sexy, clear-minded, light, carefree, strong, energised, glowing, calm, cheerful, excited, feminine, or brave?
Or perhaps balanced, glamorous, sensual, liberated, joyful, nourished, relaxed, whole, spirited, or empowered?
Write down what you need to do next year in order to feel that way. What could you schedule into your diary now to start bringing those feelings to life?
The best thing about soul-based goals is that you have the power to make yourself feel that way every single day. Get creative, gorgeous. Crack that beautiful heart of yours wide open and really listen to your true desires.
Need some examples? Two of my core desired feelings for next year are…
What that means to me: Creativity. Fun. Spontaneity. Mischief. Carefree.
In order to feel playful in 2014 I will: Choose love over fear. Trust. Believe. Tell jokes. Send my friends funny messages. Tickle Dom. Make fun demo videos. Create fun, easy recipes. Schedule time off-line. Watch funny movies. Go in search of adventure. Try new things. Take beautiful photos. Throw themed dinner parties. Paint my toe nails. Create. Share. Skip. Giggle. Dance.
What that means to me: Sparkly. Healthy. Alive. Glowing. Self care. Connection. Bliss.
In order to feel radiant in 2014 I will: Stretch before bed. Go to bed earlier. Sleep. Stretch at sunrise. Juice. Run. Dance. Offer help. Eat plenty of fresh, whole foods. Feel sunshine on my skin. Splash around at the beach. Picnic in the park. Keep a gratitude journal. Meditate. Write. Create. Eat dinner by candlelight. Choose quality over quantity. Phone friends and family more. Listen. Practice random acts of kindness.
So what are your core desired feelings for 2014, beautiful? What will you schedule to make you feel that way? I made you this 2014 planner to help you to map it all out. Click to download it, print it out, and create away! Here’s to your best year yet! xx
Is one of your goals to become healthier in the new year? Come join me for The Sparkle Project! This guided group program is filled to the brim with fun-sheets, videos, resources, shopping lists, meal planners, affirmations and recipes, all wrapped up with loving support from a community of like-minded women. The magic happens on January 6th. Register HERE.